Love and Sex:
For most of us love means catching hold of someone or something and not letting them go. Possession, for most of us, is what love means – whether it is a person or an object. If the item or person is lost, is taken away, we feel the loss and we claim to be suffering as the object of our love is no more with us.
Love is not barter. It does not demand anything. It is not on conditions. It is a flow. It is not a destination. It is to be felt from the heart, not analysed from the intellectual mind. It is not governed by the rules of society or government. It has its own calling. If you listen to it, you forget yourself and in that forgetting, the love blooms. Love, with it’s own rules and regulations that are completely different from the ones, made by human beings, can govern you, if you allow yourself to be trampled by this. It gives ecstasies, but it also gives you the acutest suffering. It is for the brave to love. For a commoner, it is better to love in its limitations, where you laugh in your smiles and where you cry in your sad expressions. Love allows you to laugh to the maximum and cry to the unbearable.
In one word – Love comes in your life, when you forget yourself. The most memorable moments of your life were, if you care to recall, when you felt at one with the universe. There was NO separation between you and what made you full of love. It might have been the sweet smile of a beggar child on the street, or the kiss of your spouse or the natural scenario of a mountain or river, or just a plain field with a solitary tree. You may have been moved so much that you actually cried in your happiness. You were grateful to the universe that you experienced such a phenomenon. During those moments YOU did not exist. Those are the moments of Meditation.
Religions banned or limited its use, as its use will take people away from the God. People will be happy, satisfied if sex was not restricted and very few satisfied people, actually go to temples/mosques and churches etc. The Government made lots of rules and regulations regulating it, but in which part of the world, sex is not a problem? Both religion and Government will lose their power, if sex is not controlled. It is told that societies will go berserk if we don’t control sex. By the way, where is society heading right now, with all these controls?
But, if you love somebody, you would like to have no barriers with them, so people in love all over the world gets into sexual act without thinking. But if your object of love is not married to you, it makes you feel so guilty that you want to keep away from the act as much as you can - the guilt of not following society’s rules and regulations and one’s own conditioning.
NO, a woman is an object of love, and NOT Sex. But, most of the males can’t differentiate between love and sex, so they try sex. If they get, they continue, if they don’t, they go away.
In addition, the human psyche is interested in power, and for men – having sex with women gives a sense of power to them. So, the more, the better….
We all talk of love. We swear of our love to our wife, to our husband, to our society and so on. But we don’t know what love is.
For most of us love means catching hold of someone or something and not letting them go. Possession, for most of us, is what love means – whether it is a person or an object. If the item or person is lost, is taken away, we feel the loss and we claim to be suffering as the object of our love is no more with us.
In one word – Love comes in your life, when you forget yourself. The most memorable moments of your life were, if you care to recall, when you felt at one with the universe. There was NO separation between you and what made you full of love. It might have been the sweet smile of a beggar child on the street, or the kiss of your spouse or the natural scenario of a mountain or river, or just a plain field with a solitary tree. You may have been moved so much that you actually cried in your happiness. You were grateful to the universe that you experienced such a phenomenon. During those moments YOU did not exist. Those are the moments of Meditation.
Till YOU are alive, you cannot love. Because then, you will be governed by the analysis of your mind – Can I love? Should I love? Is he worthy of my love? Does she respond to my love? What, if, ….. and, so on…..
And what is Sex? Sex is an act between two people, when they feel so close to each other that they decide to shed all their inhibitions, including clothes and melt into each other to get the most pleasurable experience available to mankind.
Sex is the physical act, that takes you - out of YOU. It is a moment of extreme pleasure. You forget yourself during those moments - if the act was voluntary, if it was not forced on you. During the moments of unforced sex, you feel a pure love that is only possible during meditation. But then, why the entire world thinks of sex and is scared of it, at the same time? Why almost all the religions in the world, except may be Buddhism, ask its followers to have a tight control over it? Why the rules of the society limit this act?
And the beauty is, the same head of religions and society will not think twice before indulging in the act, if nobody was watching or if the act was in complete secrecy.
The problem is in the mind. For a male, it is his power; for a female it is her bargain tool to turn the power in her favour.
The act of sex takes place for bearing a child, for pleasing one’s lover even if your heart is not in the act, for clearing any debt, for earning money, for fun etc. But, very seldom, it is enacted for love. Very few times, one wants to melt oneself in her lover’s arm.
And, for the people, who would like to have sex with whomever they meet, it is a show off of their achievement, as people in other walks of life show off their cups and medals.
And in the last, is woman only an object of sex alone???
In addition, the human psyche is interested in power, and for men – having sex with women gives a sense of power to them. So, the more, the better….
So, whether to have sex or not, you will have to decide yourself, whether the person who wants sex with you, is which type of person and take your decision accordingly!!!!
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